Tilapia

Near the beginning of my time here, my housemate taught me how to properly eat tilapia from the whole fish.

It's really an interesting thing, because before she told me, I would always end up with crazy amounts of bones in my meat. Because I didn't know where the bones were, I didn't know where to start, so I would just dig in, and make even more of a mess of things. Gia taught me where to start--from the middle, where the backbone of the fish is located, and just to cut it open gently. If you press too hard, as I had been doing, you break other bones and pick some up from the other side of the fish--in short, you're left with a mess.

 

Why do I tell you this story? Because I think it has a lot of implications for our spiritual lives. I have slowly been reading through a book John Sender gave me called, The Praying Life: Connecting With God in A Distracting World by Paul Miller. In the first few chapters, he discusses our need to come to God as little children, and part of that is that we come to him as we are.

Now we've heard this a million times in our lives. But how many times when we pray, do we try to make prayer feel a certain way, or look a certain way? We end up praying generic sentences like "thank you for this day", or " "please bless so-and-so" or at least I do...

So, do we often pray what we think we "should" be praying, in hopes that it will make us more spiritual? Do we flounder around, trying to think of "good things to pray"? I have definitely felt like that, and not unfrequetnly, if I am honest with myself and with you.

And so I found that prayer is like eating tilapia. We have to start at the right place--not a "cookie-cutter, spiritual" place. Rather, a real place--wherever you are. I found that I don't have to think of 'the right things' to pray; to make sure I pray the most spiritual prayers; to make sure I am having a 'deep' conversation with God. In fact, if I try to do this, I am trying too hard, and I will only end up with a bigger mess. I have ended up feeling like a hypocrite.

Paul Miller said in his book, "The kingdom comes when Jesus becomes king of your life. But it has to be your life. You can't create a kingdom that doesn't exist, where you try to be better than you really are. Jesus calls that hypocrisy--putting on a mask to cover the real you.
"Ironically, many attempts to teach people to pray encourage the creation of a split personality. You're taught to "do it right." Instead of the real, messy you meeting God, you try to re-create yourself by becoming spiritual. No wonder prayer is so unsatisfying.
So instead of being paralyzed by who you are, begin with who you are. That's how the gospel works. God begins with you. It's a little scary because you are mesed up."

Praying things only because they seem "right" or "spiritual" never gets me anywhere. Instead, I am left with more things to sort out in the future, more bones to pick out, if you will. the more I try to overlay a better me into my prayer life, the more I am decieved.

So I give up. I'm done trying. Instead, I am going to pray for God to help me start from who I am.

Messy as I am.
 

The non-necessities of American culture

So, since I've been living outside of the US for 9 months now, I have realized there are quite a few things we are so used to using in America that we don't think about the possibility of not having them. Really, though, they are non-essentials.. Here's a list of a few things that I've realized we don't "need" in the way we have come to be dependant on them :
Hot water (for washing dishes, for showering..)

An overhead shower.



what we use here for showering--buckets

 

Air conditioning.

Flushing toilets.

Toilet paper. Mmhmm. old school style. 
Some people in towns near me don't even have bathrooms, running water, or electricity. Now, i realize that this is usually not sanitary, and can cause lots of illnesses, due to using the same river for a bathroom and a shower, but at the same time, people live that way...

during a brown-out.. sitting by candle-light

Some other things people go without here, and make it just fine:

Self-filling and -running clothes washing machine

A washing machine in general

A house free of ants, or cockroaches for that matter

An electric stove

A gas stove.. (it's called coal).

the kitchen at the girls' dorm

matches..? sometimes. If you're out, why not just rub two sticks together...

Now, this is not just a post to tell you how much people 'rough it' here, or how different life is. Let this never become something that just fascinates us, lest we forget the people behind the different tasks that these things imply. Just because we have these things in our homes in America doesn't make us an better, or better off for that matter, than the people living here without them. In fact, recently, I was thinking about how much more complicated and frustrating our lives can be because of owning machines and devices designed to "make our life easier." I mean, when you own a dishwasher, a washing machine and dryer, toilets, showers, stoves, etc. you also have to spend time on their upkeep. Machines break. Then we have to fix them, and that costs money. So yes, our modern "conveniences" can be helpful, but they can also be a big pain. 

People here who don't have those things may spend more time on tasks we have come to dislike. That's not to say, though, that their lives are not enjoyable. I'm sure when students do laundry in the dorms, even if it's not fun for them, they spend a lot of time near each other and probably talk while they're doing their chore. How many people do you talk to while you're doing your laundry? What about washing dishes? Every night, I wash dishes with my housemate, and we talk or sing along with the radio together. It's something simple, but this has built a tighter friendship between the two of us. For probably a month or two, we cooked at home over coals. It took more time, yes, but it made me so much more appreciative of having something to eat, and some way to cook it.

girls doing their laundry together at the dorm

What other things can you think of that we use in America a lot but really could probbaly go without, or at least spend less time on? How about the very thing we're both using right now--computers? How dependant are we on our computers? How much time do you spend on them that you could spend face-to-face getting to know people?

Music in Aisa

Sometimes I wonder if life back in the States will seem really quiet and boring to me when I return.

Here, I think just about everyone loves music, and singing. People often have their radios on, and they will sing karaoke at all hours of the day—even in the early morning. Our houses are really close together, and the walls do not insulate sounds, hardly at all. So it’s really not uncommon for me to have background music provided by the neighbors while I’m eating breakfast at 6am. In fact, I was recently woken up at 5:30 by my neighbor's blaring music. Some days, if we are eating breakfast and everything is really quiet, I feel like something is strange.. then I realize that the music is missing.

Just to give you an idea of the kind of music, there isn’t much of a generational difference when it comes to song choices. Children all the way up to grandparents will listen to the same music together. So it’s not uncommon to hear One Direction, Michael Buble, Guy Sebastian, Simon and Garfunkel, and then back to Brian McKnight, all in a ½ hour time span….recently, it's been "total eclipse of the heart" that has taken over the neighbors karaoke...

Also, there seems to be this phenonemon where the malls will play songs like "heart of worship" by Matt Redman, "Mighty to Save" by hillsong and "Unfailing Love" by Chris Tomlin.. not even kidding. I defninitely have heard those songs playing. It's kind of interesting and refreshing too, to walk through a place that reflects the materialism in this world--a mall--and have a sweet reminder of what is really important, like God's unfailing love for us.

Even though the loud music at all times can sometimes be wearying, I also find it quite enjoyable. You can be at a restaurant, and all at once, the server behind the counter begins singing. Loudly, without reservation, on or off key. It doesn't matter. I like the way people here are not ashamed to be heard, even if they are not the best vocalist. They enjoy singing, so why not?
It's not uncommon to see a group of employees gathered around the karaoke machine in an appliance store or a department store. I think it's partially advertisement to attract customers, but hey, it doesn't hurt to pass the down time at work that way, either!

In the same vein, people like to dance (and make jokes). I can't tell you how many times I have hear people say "thanks for teaching me.." and others jump in with "how to duggie?" One of the most interesting jobs I have seen here is the traffic policeman. I don't know if it's an actual rule, but it sure is a common thing to see the traffic cop dancing in the middle of the intersection as he directs the vehicles where to go. Because this is so popular, there are even videos of this online. Check out this link for an example of a particularly talented cop!
 
Sometimes, places like coffee shops and restaurants also like to play cds of cover songs. Usually the covers are of pop songs, hip-hop songs, or Michael Jackson, but no matter what the sound of the original, they are all done in a "lounge/elevator music" style, very smooth, and low-key. it's kind of funny to hear a girls soft voice slowly singing Kesha's song "tick tock"... "don't stop, make it pop, dj blow my speakers up.."

The joys of living in another country! ;-)

Intramurals

A couple of weeks ago, the University we are helping had its "foundation week," commonly known as Intramurals (or intrams, cause people here like to shorten everything! ha!) which commemorates the beginning of the University by having all the colleges compete against one another in various sporting events. It was a very welcomed break from classes, and a good chance to just hang out with students on campus, with no time restrictions.

The opening ceremony was held at a huge "gymnasium" in the city, so we traveled there Monday morning. The main event was a cheer dance competition. Even though most of them had lots of men in the group dancing inappropriately, I enjoyed this group's act because they used a lot more mechanics and technique instead of just being "sexy."



As we walked around campus that week, these are some of the sports we saw..





for the basketball games, they kept track of the score by hand, on a chalk board! Talk about old school! =)

I was really impressed by the number of sporting events that were taking place. The sports list included volleyball, track, baseball, softball, soccer, badminton, table tennis, chess, darts, and of course, basketball. It also included a national sport, Sepak Takraw. This sport is like a combination of volleyball and hackey sack. It is played with a bamboo ball about the size of a softball. There are 3 players on either side of the net, and they must use their head and feet only to pass the ball over the net. It’s actually really fun to watch.
 

one of our students playing Sepak Takraw

One day during Intrams, they also had an "open dorm" event. All of the dorm residents prepared their rooms, and judges went around to award prizes for the best decorated. The girls go all out for this event. I mean all out. One room was really creative, and turned a bed sideways to create a "throne" look.. (not sure if that'd be allowed in our dorms in the States, but it sure looked really nice!)

Almost all of the rooms also decorated their ceilings too. This one looked particularly cool.

 

In many rooms, girls prepared food to serve to any guests. We stopped and ate with one of our students in her room.

In addition to sports and dorm events, there were a lot of vendors who set up their table/shop on the campus, selling bracelets, food, drinks, and even offering karaoke.

I hope you enjoyed getting a small glimpse into University life here. I know I did.

Septem-berrrrr....

Earlier this year, I was told that people begin to celebrate Christmas in September.. why? Becuase it's the start of the brrr months... initially I thought that was really funny, and kinda cheesey.

Today, on September 1st, I still think that. But I love it. It just makes me laugh, because here in SE Asia, we live in a tropical climate. There are no real "brrr" months. The lowest temp is probably in the 70s..

At home, Christmas always happens in winter.. temps are probably in the 30s or 40s, and there could be snow on the ground. A couple of years ago, we pulled my nephew around in the snow that covered our front yard.

 

We also dress kids like this.


(yes, this is a shameless insertion of my niece and nephew into this post, cause they're so cute!)

But people here like to play with words and make puns a lot. And I know they see a lot of Christmas ads, hear lots of Christmas songs and see lots of christmas decorum involving snow and fireplaces and the weather being cold. They've probably seen gingerbread houses decorated of course with frosting that looks like snow..

So what do they naturally think about? The berrr months!

And what better excuse for extending the celebration of Jesus' birth. So a very Merry Christmas to you... in Septemberrrr!!!
(and Octoberrr and Novemberrr, and Decemberrr.)